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Teresa D. Glenn

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Making Our Words Count

I was a school teacher for nine years.  I loved it.  It was stressful and challenging, yet very rewarding when I saw positive change in a student.

In my final four years I taught teenagers, all of whom had experienced years of academic failure.  Also, they’d received plenty of attention for inappropriate behavior and bad decisions, so that as they entered high school, my students tended to already be “known” by the principal.

Outwardly, their personality exuded indifference.  Looking them in the eye, I saw defeat and defiance.

In college, one of my professors instructed us to “catch” students being good or making good decisions.  Our reward  would be a spoken word to express approval, admiration, value or compliment.  Praise.

This made sense to me, to intentional speak to inspire effort in the desired direction or to affirm effort to discontinue inappropriate behavior.

I was humbled over and over again to realize how easy it was to take for granted the students who were behaving while giving more of my attention to students who were not obeying.

I think the same thing can happen in our homes.

It’s natural that we watch to see if our children are doing what we’ve told or taught them.  The challenge is what we do with what we see.

We want to whet their appetite for wanting positive attention:
“When your brother teased you, you handled that well.”
“I like your friend who came over yesterday.”
“Mr. Jones told me how polite you were.”
“You’ve done your chores all week without any reminders.”

Praise is incentive to continue in the same stream of whatever brings recognition.  Children like attention, so it makes sense to give them attention for desired behavior, rather than primarily attending negative behavior.  Correction is still an essential, but we can spotlight good behavior.

“Thank you, Father, that you delight in us, affirming our efforts to submit to You.  Teach us to delight in our children this way.”

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  1. edith says

    August 17, 2012 at 2:41 pm

    How wise your words are. Not just for children and young people but for older people as well.
    Doesn’t take a lot of effort, just some thoughtfulness now and then to lighten the heart. Your own and theirs. You are a wonderful teacher, Teresa, so observant of emotions and knowing the cure.

    Blessings, Edith

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    • Teresa says

      August 17, 2012 at 2:45 pm

      I’m always blessed when you share your perspective, Edith. Thank you!

      Reply
  2. kit says

    August 15, 2012 at 8:55 pm

    Teresa,
    Thank you for this blessing of a post. Not only do i need this reminder for my children, but i needed to hear this today for my New crop of students. I Will pass this on.
    Kit

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    • Teresa says

      August 16, 2012 at 12:08 pm

      Hi Kit,
      I didn’t realize you were still teaching. I know you are such a blessing to your students! I pray you have a great school year. And thank you for your words of encouragement; they always bless me.

      Reply

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